Congratulations! You Are a Self-Made Millionaire

2327567470_230710a79dI have heard the term “self-made millionaire” thrown around ever since I was a little kid.  I always thought it sounded so cool.  The dream of being able to say, “I accomplished all this success in my life all by myself when everyone doubted me,” felt quite powerful.  Many people on Twitter give themselves this title, which is what sparked this post.

Now that I have become more aware about success and business, I am disturbed by the term.  No one, I mean NO ONE is self-made.  I don’t care if everyone doubted you throughout your entire life and prayed for your downfall or if you were born with rags on your back.  They made you who you are.  Think about all the influence that molded us to who we are–the good and the bad.  My parents are not at all business minded, but they helped make me who I am.  And so did my friends and mentors, business partners and even all the authors of all the books I have read.

In fact, everyone helped make me.  Whether they know it or not, I couldn’t imagine being where I am at without all the amazing people in my life.  Even the few people that I don’t enjoy being in their presence, helped make me.  They set an example for who I never want to be like.

Give others credit.  It will take your further then always patting yourself on the back.  If I ever take the credit for all my success, someone please slap me in the face and give me a wake up call.

Maybe I should write a book on how to become a self-made success.  Wait, that would contribute to someone’s success!

Your thoughts?

[photo by: Esteban Hadji]
  • genystartup

    Good read mate. I can see your views on the issue of 'self made'. Everyone who achieves a success always has someone or something to thank for it in my opinion. When people say 'self made' these days however, they tend to misconstrue the phrase as someone who came from absolutely nothing to achieve some level of fortune.

    • Thank you. So do you think then this word should be thrown out? I have a respect for anyone that creates success especially someone who has literally nothing. But when you come from nothing, I think even more so that others are contributing to ones success. Those words could look quite selfish if someone from a rags to riches story used it in the wrong context. What should someone in that “rags to riches” situation be called?

  • Great thought Bradley, we are all connected and even the people who don't support us may spur us on by “proving them wrong” Love your thoughts here…I am a huge fan!

    • Thanks Eric. Do you believe people that we feel we must prove wrong contribute to our success? Is there a way they can be given credit or does that look bad? Your thoughts?

      bradley will

  • Great point Brad. There are a lot of people running around out there “thinking” they have done it all themselves and, as a friend of mine keeps saying, they are just unaware. I was persuaded (forced) some years ago to write a list of all the things and people I had to be grateful for – lets just say it was an eye opener and a punch in the stomach combined. I'll go back to one of the Star Trek movies, when Kirk said, “I do not want you to take my pain, my pain makes me who I am. Without it, I am nothing.” (maybe associating pain and the people that got you where you are isn't such a good metaphor… )

    • Thanks Chris, I like the way you put it. They are unaware. I think we are all unaware at one point. Just how I envisioned me saying I was a self-made millionaire. What is the turning point in your eyes where someone becomes more aware about success and money? Like the importance of it and about loving one's self.

      Dude I am tweeting this quote out- “I do not want you to take my pain, my pain makes me who I am. Without it, I am nothing.” -Captian Kirk

      I love it. It means a lot to me. I have gone through much physical pain over the past few years and could not imagine not have gone through it. It made me so much stronger and aware. Thanks for sharing!

      bradley will

  • Thanks 4 clearing the air Brad! You're an inpiration to u us all bro!

    • Thanks Gabe. Couldn't be where I am at if it was not for you.

  • This is definitely a refreshing take on life and living. You're right! I would balance out that statement that it does take a lot of choice, commitment and responsibility on our parts to act responsibly in a way that will generate results. However, humility and gratitude tell us that we need to acknowledge the people who have contributed to our success. And, as a Christian, I am of course of the belief that without God, we can do little of significance and worth.

    • Great angle Steve. We are all responsible for our own success and actions. Do you think that choice is something that stems from within or something this is fueled by our environment?

      • I would say that true choice, in the most authentic sense, comes from within. If we make choices unconsciously, that is reacting, versus choosing. We need to take time to sort out our true values, mission, and purpose, so that we can make our choices according to those values and goals.

  • pinto4378

    Excellent one , yes success do come for some b taking some amount of risk which most of us are not willing to take.

  • pinto4378

    Excellent one , yes success do come for some b taking some amount of risk which most of us are not willing to take.

  • Disagree

    To me self made means: “if I didn’t make the effort that I did, I wouldn’t be where I am now”

    Help, perhaps. Without handouts.

  • Disagree

    To me self made means: “if I didn’t make the effort that I did, I wouldn’t be where I am now”

    Help, perhaps. Without handouts.